In Our Words
Stories from the Intersection of LGBTQIA+ Identity and Disability

Explore the many lived experiences of Disabled people identifying as LGBTQIA+

Publication Date 30 January, 2024 Available in all formats

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"In Our Words is a book I wish had been available when I was a teenager, grappling with issues of sexuality and disability."Dr Alastair McEwin AM, Former Commissioner, Disability Royal Commission; Former Disability Discrimination Commissioner

What can we learn from the lived experiences of Disabled people identifying as LGBTQIA+?

Through a series of personal reflections, In Our Words follows the difficult journeys of a number of Queer and Disabled authors from coming out to arriving at a place of positive identity.

This empowering collection discusses the discrimination and hatred faced by the Queer and Disabled community, and shares how these barriers can be overcome to arrive at a place of self-acceptance and love. Through examples, this book aims to promote a sense of unity and pride.

Through tales of self-reflection, insight, and discovery, this book is ideal reading for students of Disability Studies, LGBTQIA+ Studies, Social Work, and Gender Studies as well as Queer Disabled folk.

In Our Words is a book I wish had been available when I was a teenager, grappling with issues of sexuality and disability. Like many of the contributors to this book, I experienced feelings of confusion and a lack of pride and confidence in myself and my place in the world.

Through story-telling and the sharing of experiences, at times searingly raw, this book draws on rich diversity and intersectionality to present a clear message: it is okay to be queer and disabled.

I commend Wayne and Yenn for putting together a wonderful compilation of queer and disabled life stories. This is a book that will be an invaluable addition to queer and disabled literature.

  • Cover
  • Half Title
  • Title Page
  • Dedication
  • Copyright Page
  • Contents
  • Content warning
  • Foreword
  • Introducing the editors
  • Learning objectives
  • 1 Introduction
    • Some words about words
    • Disability and identity
    • Social and medical models 
of disability
    • Disability discrimination
    • Inspiration porn, micro-aggressions, and other issues
    • LGBTQIA+ identity
    • Intersection of LGBTQIA+ and disabled identity
    • Coming out
    • Representation
    • Allies
    • About privilege
  • 2 Wayne Herbert
    • Welcome to my world
      • Wayne’s story
  • 3 Dr Wesley Lim
    • Recalibrating the senses towards disabled movement
  • 4 Kelly Vincent
    • Kelly’s story – Dear younger Kelly…
  • 5 Zoe Simmons
    • Zoe’s story – Dear teenage Zoe
  • 6 Dr Wenn Lawson
    • Wenn’s story – A letter to my teenage self
      • Becoming a teenager, or early adolescence
      • The letter
  • 7 Empress Eyrie
    • Empress’ story – Dear younger self
  • 8 Emma Goodall
    • Emma’s story
  • 9 Freya Pinney
    • Freya’s story – Hidden in plain sight
    • Self-monitoring, hypervigilant, not trusting, and self-sacrificing
    • Words for my younger self…
      • Sexuality is different to sexual preference
      • You can be friends with classmates or workmates but you have to make friends with them; it is not implied by the time you spend in the same place, and there is no formula for making friends.
      • It is OK to let someone know you find them attractive or like them, even if they aren’t interested in you. You won’t suffer any consequences.
      • Not everyone else is being honest
about everything
      • Spending money on yourself is not wasting money
      • Not everyone will like you. Just like you don’t actually like everyone else.
      • There is no innate, right way to be
  • 10 Ainslee Hooper
    • Ainslee’s story – From you to me and me to you
  • 11 Jack Brady
    • Jack’s story
  • 12 Kat Reed
    • Kat’s story
  • 13 Margherita Coppolino
    • Margherita’s story – The little book of life
      • Introduction
      • Early days
      • Life in institutional care
      • Discovering my family
      • Adulthood: Employment
      • Advocacy
      • Activities and interests
      • Discovering my culture
      • Creating my identity
      • Coming out
  • 14 Yenn Purkis
    • Yenn’s story
      • Reflections of Yenn at 15
      • Socialists and the road to a desperate life
      • Crime, drugs, and alcohol
      • Mental illness
      • Journey to success
      • Unlikely and an anomaly
      • Gender expression
      • An advocate
      • Identity – Autistic pride, queer pride
      • One last thing
  • 15 Summary
  • Notes
  • Suggested discussion topics
  • References
  • Recommended further reading
  • Index

Wayne Herbert is an international speaker, MC, comedian, and writer. He serves on the board of LGBTIQ+ Health Australia and is the former Vice President of Meridian, a Canberra community-controlled organisation working to prevent and ameliorate HIV. Wayne was nominated as the 2018 Australian Capital Territory Australian of the year for services to the LGBTQIA+ and Disability communities.

Yenn Purkis (they/them) is an author, public servant, and advocate for Autistic people and their families. Living with diagnoses of Autism, ADHD, and atypical schizophrenia, Yenn is a frequent speaker on the topics of neurodiversity, mental health, gender, and employment, and facilitates a support group for Autistic women and non-binary people.

About The Book

"In Our Words is a book I wish had been available when I was a teenager, grappling with issues of sexuality and disability."Dr Alastair McEwin AM, Former Commissioner, Disability Royal Commission; Former Disability Discrimination Commissioner

What can we learn from the lived experiences of Disabled people identifying as LGBTQIA+?

Through a series of personal reflections, In Our Words follows the difficult journeys of a number of Queer and Disabled authors from coming out to arriving at a place of positive identity.

This empowering collection discusses the discrimination and hatred faced by the Queer and Disabled community, and shares how these barriers can be overcome to arrive at a place of self-acceptance and love. Through examples, this book aims to promote a sense of unity and pride.

Through tales of self-reflection, insight, and discovery, this book is ideal reading for students of Disability Studies, LGBTQIA+ Studies, Social Work, and Gender Studies as well as Queer Disabled folk.

Endorsement

In Our Words is a book I wish had been available when I was a teenager, grappling with issues of sexuality and disability. Like many of the contributors to this book, I experienced feelings of confusion and a lack of pride and confidence in myself and my place in the world.

Through story-telling and the sharing of experiences, at times searingly raw, this book draws on rich diversity and intersectionality to present a clear message: it is okay to be queer and disabled.

I commend Wayne and Yenn for putting together a wonderful compilation of queer and disabled life stories. This is a book that will be an invaluable addition to queer and disabled literature.

Table of Contents
  • Cover
  • Half Title
  • Title Page
  • Dedication
  • Copyright Page
  • Contents
  • Content warning
  • Foreword
  • Introducing the editors
  • Learning objectives
  • 1 Introduction
    • Some words about words
    • Disability and identity
    • Social and medical models 
of disability
    • Disability discrimination
    • Inspiration porn, micro-aggressions, and other issues
    • LGBTQIA+ identity
    • Intersection of LGBTQIA+ and disabled identity
    • Coming out
    • Representation
    • Allies
    • About privilege
  • 2 Wayne Herbert
    • Welcome to my world
      • Wayne’s story
  • 3 Dr Wesley Lim
    • Recalibrating the senses towards disabled movement
  • 4 Kelly Vincent
    • Kelly’s story – Dear younger Kelly…
  • 5 Zoe Simmons
    • Zoe’s story – Dear teenage Zoe
  • 6 Dr Wenn Lawson
    • Wenn’s story – A letter to my teenage self
      • Becoming a teenager, or early adolescence
      • The letter
  • 7 Empress Eyrie
    • Empress’ story – Dear younger self
  • 8 Emma Goodall
    • Emma’s story
  • 9 Freya Pinney
    • Freya’s story – Hidden in plain sight
    • Self-monitoring, hypervigilant, not trusting, and self-sacrificing
    • Words for my younger self…
      • Sexuality is different to sexual preference
      • You can be friends with classmates or workmates but you have to make friends with them; it is not implied by the time you spend in the same place, and there is no formula for making friends.
      • It is OK to let someone know you find them attractive or like them, even if they aren’t interested in you. You won’t suffer any consequences.
      • Not everyone else is being honest
about everything
      • Spending money on yourself is not wasting money
      • Not everyone will like you. Just like you don’t actually like everyone else.
      • There is no innate, right way to be
  • 10 Ainslee Hooper
    • Ainslee’s story – From you to me and me to you
  • 11 Jack Brady
    • Jack’s story
  • 12 Kat Reed
    • Kat’s story
  • 13 Margherita Coppolino
    • Margherita’s story – The little book of life
      • Introduction
      • Early days
      • Life in institutional care
      • Discovering my family
      • Adulthood: Employment
      • Advocacy
      • Activities and interests
      • Discovering my culture
      • Creating my identity
      • Coming out
  • 14 Yenn Purkis
    • Yenn’s story
      • Reflections of Yenn at 15
      • Socialists and the road to a desperate life
      • Crime, drugs, and alcohol
      • Mental illness
      • Journey to success
      • Unlikely and an anomaly
      • Gender expression
      • An advocate
      • Identity – Autistic pride, queer pride
      • One last thing
  • 15 Summary
  • Notes
  • Suggested discussion topics
  • References
  • Recommended further reading
  • Index
About The Author

Wayne Herbert is an international speaker, MC, comedian, and writer. He serves on the board of LGBTIQ+ Health Australia and is the former Vice President of Meridian, a Canberra community-controlled organisation working to prevent and ameliorate HIV. Wayne was nominated as the 2018 Australian Capital Territory Australian of the year for services to the LGBTQIA+ and Disability communities.

Yenn Purkis (they/them) is an author, public servant, and advocate for Autistic people and their families. Living with diagnoses of Autism, ADHD, and atypical schizophrenia, Yenn is a frequent speaker on the topics of neurodiversity, mental health, gender, and employment, and facilitates a support group for Autistic women and non-binary people.

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